the success pit

the stakesmaker

tanlin — Tue, 07 Oct 2008 00:54:05 +0000

I thought that a leader should deserve a second name: the stakemaker!

Why? because when he starts.. and he has a vision or a goal… no one has a stake in what he is doing…but when he succeeds every body has a stake in him and his goal….so in fact he is a stakemaker…

maker of stakes..

are you really in control of your success ?

tanlin — Fri, 08 Aug 2008 03:26:58 +0000

I just saw “the secret” and it raises the question of how much are you yourself in control versus “god” ? Clearly I have no answer to this… but the question is very valid.

How much is faith..? fate?..other forces….than you…

me or you?

I am a looser,baby..

tanlin — Sun, 03 Aug 2008 23:24:00 +0000

do you know this song?
I like it because…. the only person that makes you a looser is yourself….
Have you ever heard someone say: ” I have lost my life….? It just got lost….in the hay…how do I find it again??”

reminds me of Woody Allen: Life is full of misery, loneliness, and suffering – and it’s all over much too soon.

any tips from the audience??

ah.. leadership …7 top tips

tanlin — Sun, 03 Aug 2008 04:38:27 +0000

1. feel the responsibility
2. see the goal
3. plan to make it come true
4. think as an entrepreneur in networks of support
5. act like water
6. do it with integrity
7. create for thr better.

don’t manage- just lead!

who is the hero? – the “successful” communicator!

tanlin — Sun, 03 Aug 2008 04:34:37 +0000

you can be smart as anything… if nobody understands you… what do you do?

LEARN TO COMMUNICATE !

I am doing this right now and that’s why I am sharing my insides with you…. as I am movng from a beginner to a professional:

here we go: communication is like a dance….of two orchestras playing together..
and of course.. never loose your temper…focus on your message…
..use questions to reiterate your message

and if you talk to someone… the person stays a subject as long as there is no personal connection…

so please give me examples of great communications….!!

??????

what are your layers.. around you? how did you build them.. and how do they protect you…

the impossible to listen to communicator!

succeeding…is to demonstrate an unsurpassed willpower

tanlin — Fri, 25 Jul 2008 01:14:11 +0000

and the end of the day..
yes, we admire people that follow their venture through no matter what comes their way…
yes, we admire people that succeed…
but at the end of the day it is a matter of who wants to succeed more…
women often are not as committed to achieve their goals and thus even in games don’t compete as hard as it is lore logic and natural to take an easier way…
and you can do it..
but
only to come back and try even harder

unbroken willpower

change is causing change to change the change

tanlin — Sun, 06 Jul 2008 04:01:44 +0000

or as Kant said: thesis causes anti-thesis
and I believe that synthesis is just a dream

and how challenging is the moment of perfect balance.. in which there is nothing to wish for..
Is not our life made of wishes? Hopes?.. and all the things that we don’t have?

It is so much easier to ask for something or to wish something…if the wish comes true.. the challenges starts…no more backseat shouting at the driver… doing it, driving the car.. is different than talking about it… I guess only a few really undertake the driver seat change…

a backseat driver….

Ancient tips on how to be successfully happy, always?

tanlin — Sun, 22 Jun 2008 06:22:00 +0000

I am reading the Gita and I found a quote that I do believe is the essence of what I am trying to convey in this blogging texts:

“a person that has self control is calm and happy forever”

and

“Wanting is bad. Getting what you want makes you greedy for more and not getting what you want makes you angry. You must stop forever wanting things for your body.”

Bhagvan

How to drive change? – “top tips of an unsuccessful change leader”

tanlin — Mon, 16 Jun 2008 01:17:26 +0000

** you can only drive change as far as people follow you…
the moment you loose them or they don’t want to come ..any effort is in vain… it is hart to accept…
* to spend time on your supply of support rather than on the topic itself… that’s why VIPs have managers….the challenge is to become most effective in bringing people along..
* when you have the vision, but not everybody sees what you see…nobody will believe in you…
** thus you have to believe in yourself.. otherwise no one else will..
and since change must happen from within, it takes an extra strong believe as no like minded are around…

** when driving change you must save people’s face..otherwise it is not sustainable.

* power is never given to you… to drive change… you have to take it…
** BUT if you have power you have the obligation to change the world

* YES, you risk a lot….maybe everything, but it is better to take the risk and to try rather than not having tried it at all and looking at yourself with a questionmark in mind…

** find other change leaders and exchange and get mental and emotional and tactical support

* change, change and change again..be like water…it goes down anywhere…and it takes small stones with you…

waterman

What’s the price of success for women?

tanlin — Sun, 15 Jun 2008 04:05:09 +0000

here is my recipe:
1) be aware of your strength.. and that every strength is also your weakness . plan around this and build your projects, activities and career on your strength and cater for the weakness that comes with it
2) only measure yourself against your inner criteria/ mission.. don’t make yourself dependent on other people’s judgments – (you cannot win this battle)
3) do what YOU really want to do and not what your mind or your body drives you to do – develop a discipline or inner resilience

you have to feel free in everything you do otherwise you will get sick…. so change yourself from within and success will come by itself..and you stay healthy!

your health is worth more than all the money in the world..

Mme healthwise